DISPOSABLE SOULMATES

Raise your hand if you have heard any of these or some variation: I love you, you are the best boyfriend ever, I cannot live without you, you are my soulmate, you are the love of my life, you are my everything, you make me a better person, you are good to my kids and I, and I'm sorry. Just kidding. No one has heard the last one.

VALENTINE'S DAY CARD FROM PAULA

JUST TWO MONTHS BEFORE WISCONSIN

AND THREE MONTHS BEFORE DISCARD

SHANNON (APRIL 2015 - JUNE 2015):

It all started with Shannon. He was a then 23 year-old married man with a pregnant wife and child at home in Perry, Iowa that Paula met while away in Wisconsin for three weeks of military training. Upon returning home, Paula hid and lied about the relationship until after she got me to leave Belle Plaine on the pretext of needing a break from our relationship. During this time, Paula brought him with her when she came to pick up Parker from me after she had introduced him to her mother earlier that day. When she finally told me he was married, she had been home for nearly a month and she claimed he had stopped communicating with her because his wife did not like it.

"RON JUNIOR" (JULY 2015)

A source informed me that Paula spent the night with the son of her mother's friend during the July 4th weekend. I believe the friend's name is Ron. The son may have also been in the military.

"MARRIED IN FORT DODGE" (AUGUST 2015)

A source informed me that Paula had taken all of the kids on road trip to Fort Dodge to meet up with another married man she met in the military. Her mother Tami had apparently refused to watch the kids so that she could go alone.

CHASE (SEPTEMBER 2015-MARCH 2016)

Paula reportedly met Chase through her brother Brad and they started dating in September. I was informed that Paula had changed her Facebook status to "in a relationship" after only dating him for one month. She had also posted pictures of the breakfast in bed that he had made for her. This is the same woman that told me on the day our relationship ended in June that she needed to be single, independent, and focus on the children. Yet, by September, she had been with at least four different men and had forfeited a great deal of her time with Parker.

HOOVERING (APRIL 2016-MAY 2016)

I had no idea that Chase was no longer around when Paula seemed to be showing interest in me again. During this time, she complimented me on my shirt during one handover, invited me to Play Station with the kids for Parker's birthday the day after I took him there, asked me if I had a picture of the engagement ring I bought her, and invited me to spend the night before the girls' Olympic Day after I agreed to attend. I only attended Olympic Day.

TODD (JUNE 2016-DECEMBER 2016)

In June, Paula signed up for the company picnic bags tournament and listed her teammate as a man named Todd. The picnic was in August. I was there as well, but I avoided Paula and Todd. Paula behaved as if she was trying get my attention. I was not the only one that noticed. She eventually came over to me without Todd to ask pointless questions about Parker. In December, Paula told me that I could pick up Parker at 7pm at her aunt's during their family Christmas party on Christmas Eve. She later clarified that I could be there at 7pm, but Parker could not leave until 9pm. I do not know where Todd was at this time and I find it odd that she expected me to hang out at her family's Christmas party for two hours.

THE PROPOSAL (JANUARY 2017)

On the 17th, Paula proposed marriage. She went on to tell me she loves and misses me, that I was a good guy who treated her and her daughters well, and she wished she realized what she had. A week later, she threatened to pursue full custody if I did not agree to less than a shared care settlement.

READ FROM BOTTOM UP

RYAN (FEBRURARY 2017-JULY 2018)

Paula started dating Ryan approximately a month after she proposed to me. I did not know about Ryan until they arrived together to pick up Parker to take him to her father's funeral in March. She moved in with Ryan in September 2017 after her house was destroyed by a fire. Their relationship lasted until the following July. The breakup came shortly after they participated in RAGBRAI together.

BRYCE (AUGUST 2018-MARCH 2019)

Parker started talking about going to Bryce's farm and staying at Bryce's home in August. Although Paula still lived at Ryan's home, she was apparently already dating a new man and spending some nights at his home. What are the odds that Bryce is the reason for the breakup with Ryan? That said, if we give Paula the benefit of the doubt, she immediately chose to start dating a new man after the breakup with Ryan while still living in his home rather than focus on finding a new place to live. Bryce and Paula moved in together in September 2018. Bryce seemed to disappear around March 2019 after taking a new job.

JAMES (SEPTEMBER 2019-JUNE 2023)

This relationship started much earlier than September, but I do not know when. I was dropping Parker off at Paula's home in the morning before work and I often had to wait for her to return from wherever she was spending her nights. It turns out, it was Fairfax. She moved in with James in September.

TYLER (2024-PRESENT)

I do not remember when I first learned about Tyler. That said, Paula recently moved in with him making him the fourth different guy she has lived with during the past seven years. Of course, he is Mr. Wonderful...for now....until she wakes up some morning and decides there is suddenly nothing good about him based on whatever lies she pulls out of her backside and she discards him as well. There have been at least nine men since me and as many total seconds between them. Seven have lasted at least six months. If Chris and I are included, Paula has had eight failed relationships. And she has lived with six different men. Love bombing, idealize, devalue, discard, and hoover. That is her MO. If you are currently receiving her praise, do not blink. 

POSTED ONE DAY BEFORE

SHE PROPOSED TO ME 

As shown above, Paula told me in a Valentine's Day card that I was the best boyfriend ever and she falls in love with me more and more with each breath. She spent two months making it clear that she wanted an engagement ring before suddenly turning on me. She even sent an "I love you" text two months after she burned our relationship to the ground. Three months and four guys later, she is in a relationship, in love after two months, and posting memes about how Chase is her soulmate, her everything. She is dating Ryan one month after she proposed to me and he is the love of her life eight months later. At one point, starting with me, Paula was with a different guy at Thanksgiving for six straight years until James broke the streak.