THE UNMASKING

After a decade of emotional, mental, and financial abuse that continues to this day, I have decided to share my side of the story regarding Paula. I have avoided doing anything like this until now because I figured telling the truth would backfire and blow up in my face. I have decided to take that risk. I really have no expectations that anyone will ever hold her accountable. I certainly do not expect her to do the right thing. Paula, with assistance from the family court system, has deliberately caused me irreparable harm without the slightest justification. I do not know what false narrative she has spun about me over the years, but she is welcome to share it here.

This blog almost certainly fails to do my story the justice it deserves. But I'm tired of remaining silent. Taking the high road has accomplished nothing. I have lost ten years to anxiety, stress, and financial debt because I had a child with the wrong person. There are no lies she and her flying monkeys can tell about me that could possibly excuse her actions and behavior towards me. I did her no harm. Ever. There is no emotional, mental, physical, verbal, or financial abuse on my part and there are no emails, text messages, recordings, documents, or any piece of evidence to support any such claim. There is no infidelity on my part. I was completely loyal to her. There is nothing she can use against me and her own words are my best defense against any such claim. In fact, she admitted being at fault for the end our relationship while proposing to me over text messages more than year and a half after our relationship ended.

When Paula left for Wisconsin ten years ago, I was the best boyfriend ever (her words) and she wanted a ring. When she returned home three weeks later, there was suddenly nothing good about me. She was running me down over matters that were neither fair or true and had never been discussed all while hiding and lying about a relationship with a married man she met while away. There is nothing I did that explains or justifies her behavior then or since. Anyone that dares to defend Paula has to lie to absolve her and find fault with me. Any such person would demonstrate greater integrity if they just admit they do not care what she has done because it was not done to them. 

If anyone that cares about Paula reads this blog and becomes angry with me, that says more about you than it does me. Some of you have enabled her. Some of you have lied to me and about me to protect her. I have told the truth. I did nothing to deserve the circumstances put upon me the last ten years. She continues to make my life difficult. No one that dares to defend or excuse Paula's actions towards me would do the same if I were telling my story about a stranger. And I doubt anyone would keep it to themselves for as long as I have if it were done to them. I'm not going to continue to suffer the consequences of Paula's indefensible behavior towards me without finally standing up for myself. I have had enough.

Again, I have lost ten years to anxiety, stress, and financial debt because Paula would not let me walk away from our relationship (which she deliberately destroyed) with a 50-50 custody settlement after agreeing to a similar deal with her ex-husband a year earlier. Why? Because I sued for a 50-50 settlement after she had repeatedly threatened me over our son. That's it. That's her excuse for everything she has done to me.