THE UNMASKING

Update: Paula has reportedly received a raise that puts her salary around $80K per year. I have paid Paula more than $45K in child support for a child that has been in my care greater than a year more in actual time over the past ten years. The judge that issued the temporary order in 2015 stole overnights from me without explanation or justification while mistakenly assuming Paula had had more overnights. At that time, I was ordered to pay $375 in child support even though Paula made $7K more. Fast forward to June 2017, our trial judge told my attorney in chambers that he was not inclined to grant me additional overnights because I worked second shift. Therefore, a second judge favored Paula without hearing any evidence in our case including the fact that I had had more overnights the previous two years and nearly 70% of the overall time. As such, I was forced to agree to a settlement offer that gave me equal overnights once I moved to first shift. I continued to pay child support whi...

Raise your hand if you have heard any of these or some variation: I love you, you are the best boyfriend ever, I cannot live without you, you are my soulmate, you are the love of my life, you are my everything, you make me a better person, you are good to my kids and I, and I'm sorry. Just kidding. No one has heard the last one. VALENTINE'S DAY CARD FROM PAULA JUST TWO MONTHS BEFORE WISCONSIN AND THREE MONTHS BEFORE DISCARD SHANNON (APRIL 2015 - JUNE 2015): It all started with Shannon. He was a then 23 year-old married man with a pregnant wife and child at home in Perry, Iowa that Paula met while away in Wisconsin for three weeks of military training. Upon returning home, Paula hid and lied about the relationship until after she got me to leave Belle Plaine on the pretext of needing a break from our relationship. During this time, Paula brought him with her when she came to pick up Parker from me after she had introduced him to her mother earlier that day. When she finally told...

This is a follow-up to the original post below. Under the rules of the settlement, I could have Parker on Wednesday nights I did not work while I continued to work second shift. The letter below sent by Paula's attorney Landon Dufoe to my attorney is dated October 31, 2017. Our custody settlement was finalized July 5, 2017. There are 17 Wednesdays between and including those dates. I used PTO for six Wednesdays. Text messages and the list of days I used PTO provided to me by my manager back me up. I had two other Wednesdays during my two weeks of vacation time with Parker. Text messages confirm this. Paula had two Wednesdays during her two weeks of vacation time with Parker. Text messages confirm this. So far, this accounts for 10 of the 17 Wednesdays. Text messages from Paula confirm that she had Parker on four more Wednesdays. That leaves three Wednesdays where it is possible I lied to Paula about taking the night off and left Parker with my mom against the rules of the settlemen...

UPDATE: Paula finally filed a letter of satisfaction in January for $4355 in child support I paid directly to her from August 2021 to August 2022 after she had procrastinated for 552 days. Since she procrastinated for so long, my balance owed fell below the amount I paid her. For reasons unknown to me, CSS can only give me credit for no more than the amount owed today. This is spelled out in legal documents. See screenshot below (#5). Paula argues that it is not her fault that I did not receive full credit for $4355 when it absolutely is her fault for procrastinating. She even tried to claim that CSS must have applied the amount not credited towards my child support to another bill. Basically, she is alleging CSS used money it never received to pay off an imaginary debt I owe to them where they do not actually get paid. As such, she is refusing to pay back the amount I have overpaid her. Of course, the court documents do not mention the imaginary debt I owe to CSS. Also, my wages are g...

 READ FROM THE BOTTOM UP SHE POSTED THIS THE DAY BEFORE SHE PROPOSED. As far as I am concerned, the conversation above is the best piece of evidence I have to counter any lies Paula may tell about me. Beyond any necessary communication about Parker, we had very limited interaction for 21 months since our relationship ended. I avoided her as much as possible. Just as the discard came out of nowhere, Paula proposed to me out of nowhere. This happened shortly after Todd, guy #5, disappeared. She is between boyfriends. Therefore, she is trying to hoover me back into a relationship. Even if I desperately wanted to believe she was sincere, I have no idea what she expected me to do at this moment. Come running back? I did not trust her and I cannot imagine how we might have ever repaired the damage she caused. Admittedly, I had hoped following this conversation that she might do much more to convince me. But even in this instance, her excuse of falling into a rut is dishonest and did not ...

One of the highlights of my relationship with Paula is that I was always getting myself into trouble for things I never said or thought. The conversation below is an example of such. Paula had previously asked me if she could drop Parker off with me on the Sunday morning of a 5K race she was running and I agreed. Here, the Monday prior to the race, she is asking me if I would rather have Parker on Saturday night.  I said Saturday is fine twice before she indicated she would drop him off Sunday morning if I did not mind which is what the original plans were before she even asked about Saturday night. I repeated Saturday was fine before she repeated that she would keep him until Sunday morning if I did not mind. Somehow, saying Saturday is fine multiple times "sounds" like I did not care either way. And the wheels on the bus go round and round, round and round, round and round. That said, I told her I want him as much possible which apparently has its own sound in text too. By ...