MY HEART BELONGS TO YOU

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I received the Valentine's Day card above from Paula on February 14, 2015. As you can tell from her own written words, I was an above average boyfriend. Over the next two months, Paula made it clear on a near daily basis she desired an engagement ring. She would often show me pictures of rings that she liked. In April, she went to Wisconsin for three weeks of National Guard training. While away, she referred to me as her husband to be and repeatedly told me she loved and missed me.

Unfortunately, this Paula did not return home. The Paula that did come home apparently had an epiphany about me and she suddenly realized that there was nothing good about me. She did not accuse me of mistreating her. There are no accusations of emotional, mental, physical, or verbal abuse from her that explained her feelings going from one extreme to the other while she was away.

The handful of the things she complained about over the next two weeks were dishonest and unfair. She wants to gets out of the house while I always want to stay home. A lie. She wants to spend time with me, but I'm always on the computer. A lie. I'm selfish for not reading her mind and not doing things for her without her asking. Dishonest and unfair. I did not remodel her home and pay off her student loans. Unfair. We have nothing in common including the desire to go on motorcycle rides even though she had never expressed an interest in motorcycles until the very moment she used it as an example of uncommon interests.

If any of these complaints were an issue they would have been issue during the preceding months when she was putting me on a pedestal and repeatedly hinting for an engagement ring. Who spends months lavishing their significant other with praise, leaves home for three weeks, then returns home with nothing good to say about the same person they described as the "best" before they left based on a list of complaints that had never been brought up before. And while this was happening, Paula was hiding and lying about a relationship with a married man while omitting the part about him being married, but I'm sure that is a minor coincidence unrelated to the "problems" in our relationship. Therefore, I do not know why I even mention it.

In July 2015, Paula sent me an "I love you" text which I did not respond to and she did not follow up on. In April 2016, she invited me to The Play Station with her, the girls, and Parker for his second birthday the day after I took Parker there. I did not respond. Around this same time, she asked me if I had a picture of the engagement ring I bought for her while she was away in Wisconsin. In May 2016, she invited to me spend the night after I agreed to attend the girls' Olympic Day at school the next day. In 2017, she text me a marriage proposal. She told me she loved and missed me. She said I was a good guy that treated her and her daughters well and she wished she realized what she had. She took responsibility for the end of our relationship but blamed her behavior on falling into a rut. 





 


   





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