NICE AND CONGENIAL

Our temporary order was filed on Monday October 19th, 2015. I had not heard back from my lawyer about it before the Paula called on Tuesday to gloat that she was favored in the ruling. She told me the judge awarded her primary care status, all overnights Monday through Thursday plus every other three day weekend, and child support. She was wrong about overnights as I still had Tuesdays. The judge took away my Thursday nights without explanation while stating in his ruling that it "appears Paula has had more overnights." This is false. We had operated under an equal overnights schedule prior to his ruling and I had actually had 30 plus more overnights than Paula during the previous few months. 

On Wednesday October 21st, 2015, Paula repeatedly called me but I did not answer. I knew she wanted to ask for a trade and I was not interested especially since she was going to offer me the Thursday night the judge had just stolen from me in exchange for that Saturday. The trade would allow her to go bowling on Thursday and bring Parker to her grandmother's birthday party on Saturday. So long as I was being denied a 50-50 settlement, I had no intention of accommodating Paula's plans. I simply kept my time with my son, accepted all the time she forfeited, and avoided her as much as possible. There is no incentive to play nice with an abusive person that had no intention of ever doing right be me. When you lie to me and about me, deny me an equal stake in my son's life, and take my money, you do not get my cooperation when you want something more from me.       

Since I was ignoring her phone calls, Paula text the second message above. She described her actions as congenial before threatening to deny me visitation during the day. She could not do this. Once again, Paula's reading comprehension is not very strong. I was entitled to have Parker during the day hours under the temporary ruling. Paula had no authority to deny me visitation and she was not doing me any favors out of the goodness of her heart by allowing me to have him during the day rather than keep him in daycare.

The first weekend (October 23-25) following the temporary ruling was mine. The second weekend was hers. However, under the holiday schedule, I was allowed to have Parker on Halloween night from 5-9pm. I told Paula this multiple times. For reasons unknown to me, Paula thought I told her I had the whole weekend due to Halloween and she made plans for that weekend. If I had said anything like that, I would still expect her to confirm it for herself rather than take my word for it. After all, I'm the villain in her story. She had made plans to attend the wedding of her boyfriend Chase's relative on Saturday and to get a ridiculous back tattoo done on Sunday. After she realized her mistake, she asked if I would trade weekends and being the righteous asshole that I am, I said no and she threatened to deny me daytime visitation once again. See first text above. Nice and congenial. Paula kept her weekend plans.

The person that denied me a 50-50 settlement had forfeited the first Thursday she gained from the temporary ruling for bowling and her first weekend for a wedding and a tattoo while pretending I told her I get the entire second weekend too for Halloween without confirming it for herself. She mistakenly believes she gets all overnights. She mistakenly believes she can deny me daytime visitation. She mistakenly believes any parent would get a whole weekend for Halloween when that holiday changes days every year. And she mistakenly believes she was ever nice and congenial.