THE UNMASKING

Raise your hand if you have heard any of these or some variation: I love you, you are the best boyfriend ever, I cannot live without you, you are my soulmate, you are the love of my life, you are my everything, you make me a better person, you are good to my kids and I, and I'm sorry. Just kidding. No one has heard the last one. VALENTINE'S DAY CARD FROM PAULA JUST TWO MONTHS BEFORE WISCONSIN AND THREE MONTHS BEFORE DISCARD SHANNON (APRIL 2015 - JUNE 2015): It all started with Shannon. He was a then 23 year-old married man with a pregnant wife and child at home in Perry, Iowa that Paula met while away in Wisconsin for three weeks of military training. Upon returning home, Paula hid and lied about the relationship until after she got me to leave Belle Plaine on the pretext of needing a break from our relationship. During this time, Paula brought him with her when she came to pick up Parker from me after she had introduced him to her mother earlier that day. When she finally told...

This is a follow-up to the original post below. Under the rules of the settlement, I could have Parker on Wednesday nights I did not work while I continued to work second shift. The letter below sent by Paula's attorney Landon Dufoe to my attorney is dated October 31, 2017. Our custody settlement was finalized July 5, 2017. There are 17 Wednesdays between and including those dates. I used PTO for six Wednesdays. Text messages and the list of days I used PTO provided to me by my manager back me up. I had two other Wednesdays during my two weeks of vacation time with Parker. Text messages confirm this. Paula had two Wednesdays during her two weeks of vacation time with Parker. Text messages confirm this. So far, this accounts for 10 of the 17 Wednesdays. Text messages from Paula confirm that she had Parker on four more Wednesdays. That leaves three Wednesdays where it is possible I lied to Paula about taking the night off and left Parker with my mom against the rules of the settlemen...

UPDATE: Paula finally filed a letter of satisfaction in January for $4355 in child support I paid directly to her from August 2021 to August 2022 after she had procrastinated for 552 days. Since she procrastinated for so long, my balance owed fell below the amount I paid her. For reasons unknown to me, CSS can only give me credit for no more than the amount owed today. This is spelled out in legal documents. See screenshot below (#5). Paula argues that it is not her fault that I did not receive full credit for $4355 when it absolutely is her fault for procrastinating. She even tried to claim that CSS must have applied the amount not credited towards my child support to another bill. Basically, she is alleging CSS used money it never received to pay off an imaginary debt I owe to them where they do not actually get paid. As such, she is refusing to pay back the amount I have overpaid her. Of course, the court documents do not mention the imaginary debt I owe to CSS. Also, my wages are g...

 READ FROM THE BOTTOM UP SHE POSTED THIS THE DAY BEFORE SHE PROPOSED. As far as I am concerned, the conversation above is the best piece of evidence I have to counter any lies Paula may tell about me. Beyond any necessary communication about Parker, we had very limited interaction for 21 months since our relationship ended. I avoided her as much as possible. Just as the discard came out of nowhere, Paula proposed to me out of nowhere. This happened shortly after Todd, guy #5, disappeared. She is between boyfriends. Therefore, she is trying to hoover me back into a relationship. Even if I desperately wanted to believe she was sincere, I have no idea what she expected me to do at this moment. Come running back? I did not trust her and I cannot imagine how we might have ever repaired the damage she caused. Admittedly, I had hoped following this conversation that she might do much more to convince me. But even in this instance, her excuse of falling into a rut is dishonest and did not ...

One of the highlights of my relationship with Paula is that I was always getting myself into trouble for things I never said or thought. The conversation below is an example of such. Paula had previously asked me if she could drop Parker off with me on the Sunday morning of a 5K race she was running and I agreed. Here, the Monday prior to the race, she is asking me if I would rather have Parker on Saturday night.  I said Saturday is fine twice before she indicated she would drop him off Sunday morning if I did not mind which is what the original plans were before she even asked about Saturday night. I repeated Saturday was fine before she repeated that she would keep him until Sunday morning if I did not mind. Somehow, saying Saturday is fine multiple times "sounds" like I did not care either way. And the wheels on the bus go round and round, round and round, round and round. That said, I told her I want him as much possible which apparently has its own sound in text too. By ...

READ FROM BOTTOM UP Paula had traded July 3rd to me in exchange for the previous Thursday. She was supposed to keep Parker overnight and then drop him off in the morning before leaving for her monthly National Guard weekend. She actually dropped him off with my mother that Thursday night and told her that was always the plan. It was not. If she had only wanted to have him for a couple of hours, I would not have asked for the third in a trade. I suspect she made other plans that night and Parker was in the way. She also told me that she had a girls' night out planned with her cousin Jessica on the third. Those plans were apparently cancelled. The context of this discussion is Paula is demanding I hand Parker over that Friday night which she traded away and when I remind her that it is my night and tell her that I'll hand him over in the morning, she threatens to keep him for five weeks after she returns from Louisiana, threatens to pursue full custody, and threatens something re...

 On April 20, 2018 Paula arrived at work and forgot Parker in the car where he was found by daycare staff approximately 25 minutes later. When I arrived that morning to pick Parker up at daycare, Paula was curiously still there with him in the gymnasium. Neither Paula or daycare staff said anything to me about Parker being left in the car. Paula called me later on to let me know what happened and I should expect a call from DHS. When I spoke to the lady assigned to the case, I told her that I accepted Paula's story that it was an accident despite the fact it might have been in my best interest to use the incident against her. What is interesting is that Paula spoke to the lady before me and used the opportunity to express her "concerns" about the pets at my home and my mother's smoking. So, she leaves Parker in the car and for her it becomes about the same phony concerns she only ever brought up when it was convenient to use them against me. Otherwise, there was no su...

Our temporary order was filed on Monday October 19th, 2015. I had not heard back from my lawyer about it before the Paula called on Tuesday to gloat that she was favored in the ruling. She told me the judge awarded her primary care status, all overnights Monday through Thursday plus every other three day weekend, and child support. She was wrong about overnights as I still had Tuesdays. The judge took away my Thursday nights without explanation while stating in his ruling that it "appears Paula has had more overnights." This is false. We had operated under an equal overnights schedule prior to his ruling and I had actually had 30 plus more overnights than Paula during the previous few months.  On Wednesday October 21st, 2015, Paula repeatedly called me but I did not answer. I knew she wanted to ask for a trade and I was not interested especially since she was going to offer me the Thursday night the judge had just stolen from me in exchange for that Saturday. The trade would ...

  I received the Valentine's Day card above from Paula on February 14, 2015. As you can tell from her own written words, I was an above average boyfriend. Over the next two months, Paula made it clear on a near daily basis she desired an engagement ring. She would often show me pictures of rings that she liked. In April, she went to Wisconsin for three weeks of National Guard training. While away, she referred to me as her husband to be and repeatedly told me she loved and missed me. Unfortunately, this Paula did not return home. The Paula that did come home apparently had an epiphany about me and she suddenly realized that there was nothing good about me. She did not accuse me of mistreating her. There are no accusations of emotional, mental, physical, or verbal abuse from her that explained her feelings going from one extreme to the other while she was away. The handful of the things she complained about over the next two weeks were dishonest and unfair. She wants to gets out of ...